This article I am sure would make headlines as the word “Sex” would attract the youth to read it with interest. To start with, let me tell you that India is a sex deprived nation and the idea of sex sounds offensive. It’s offensive irrespective of the fact that we are one of the most populated countries. Every second, hundreds of people would be having sex somewhere or the other in this nation and still sex remains a sin or an immoral act.
Another thing this word hurts me bad with is sex being confused with love or a lifelong relationship. Sex has nothing to do with love and it should be dealt with like a craving for food, exercise, travel, etc.
Let me be clear that the willingness to get intimate with someone can be as temporary as eating a sweet dish. If I want to eat a cheesecake placed right in front of me at a function, doesn’t mean I would eat it for the rest of my life. It can simply mean that I am hungry or I haven’t eaten a cheesecake for long or for a reason as easy as having a sweet tooth.
Sudden attractions or one’s willingness to be with someone can also be for simple reasons such as a good physique the person maintains making him look like a perfect man or woman to make love to. It can be a dress that highlights a specific part of the person’s body such as bosom, hips, structured biceps (for men) or a waist well embellished with jewelry. One can suddenly have a rush of adrenaline to try to get closer to the person one feels fallen for. This isn’t loving as love is more about staying with someone in one’s good and bad, understanding the other person or being with someone come what may. This mere attraction might look faded away or washed out in a few weeks and it feels like it isn’t or wasn’t love.
Most of the times, this even leads to fake promises which look and sound real to both, the speaker and the listener. The speaker who promises to be there forever doesn’t know that the interest would naturally evaporate and the listener who is unaware that it’s just attraction ends up taking the commitments too seriously.
To resolve this the young ones need to understand that there is a huge difference between getting attracted to someone for sexual reasons and being there forever. One way out is to propose people for sex before making commitments. I know it sounds like being a slut (man or woman) in India but it’s safer, healthier and truthful. The attraction should be first dealt with physically. Once the physical side is fulfilled and the duo has done it quite well, it is time to talk and understand each other. It is time to be together and be around to see if there is a possibility to understand each other and hold onto each other forever (over and above sex). This is where the true journey starts, where sex takes the backseat and understanding and respecting each other does it all.
Sex is not a sin and would never be. It’s a healthy practice and has nothing to be ashamed of. Propose for sex and not love as it might just be sex you are looking for and the relationship might become a burden after baseless commitments are made on the basis of how attractive the person looks.
Ya that’s true that sex has nothing to do with love….nd it’s too true that we the new generation are too confused in between love nd lust…we even dont knw even we love the next person or not nd we commit alot …but Sir in a country like India don’t u think it’s really very akward to ask for sex before in being relationship?????nd if we are in relationship then most of us cannot be in distance relationship…just most of us have just lust for flesh….these guys have made fun of love…when i see around myself…most of us changes their partners as like they are changing clothes…what the heck they are doing…i don’t knw…bt according to me they have made fun of love….
Let’s not talk on moral grounds because moral grounds aren’t helping. Let’s talk about what is practical and can be done. Changing partners is nothing to worry about. The worry is the growing desperation which is skyrocketing because we are sex deprived. This desperation is leading to bad relationships, lying, ditching and obviously broken marriages. So why not make the idea of sex a little liberal so that sex is not the reason to marry someone or to get into a bad relationship or over commit. Let sex be as liberal and normal as eating. The hype given to sex should be liberalized a little.