This article is the right way to look at a life that sucks. The agitation towards life is due to the difference between one’s aspirations and the state one is in. We seek something in life and when we are unable to achieve it, we tend to get frustrated or upset.
I wanted to own an institute and due to a lack of resources, I ended up teaching at home until I was able to save enough to fulfill my dream of owning a space for an academy. The period of not having it was the period of pain.
Another example for such a situation is of one of my friends who ended up having a child he never planned for. He wanted to have a higher paying job and a Europe trip before having a child but the dream seemed shattered. He was in pain for almost a year.
Many such stories prevail in every corner of the world and there is no problem having high aspirations.
The problem arises with what one feels during this interim period of not getting what one wants. The best way to understand it is that:
- Life is an Exam and we have to attempt every question that we get. You can avoid a question but how many can one avoid or leave. The point is to take a situation as a New Question. Attempting one difficult question gives courage to handle many such difficult questions of life.
- Everyone has something big to handle: Keep grumbling “Why did it happen to me?”, “Why have I been victimized”, what wrong did I do to anyone” and life laughs at you to give you more such difficult situations. Everyone in the world is getting such situations, everyone is looking for a way to handle bad days, even the ones who look wonderfully happy.
- Take one situation at a time and don’t pile up everything to tell yourself how unlucky you are. The best is to have one aspiration at a time and to keep working on it to get through it.
- Focus on small achievements to add strength and keep working. Have leisure time to know that struggle is a part of life and not your entire life. Remember, you are a part of the process of evolution and you are born to live everyday from sunrise to sunset.