As per the Cambridge Dictionary, Someone who is assertive behaves confidently and is not frightened to say what he wants or believes. So, Assertive doesn’t mean being ill mannered or blunt, but it’s one’s ability to put one’s view across. People who are assertive have been noticed to have good relations with their colleagues, spouse, bosses and relatives.
Certain truths govern our life. One of these truths is that the people who have the ability to state their perspective at the right time and before the right person, are better understood, more respected and are considered better companions than their timid fellow beings. They don’t fear the situation and even if they do, they have the ability to overcome it. If they find something against their values, they feel free to discuss it with others without losing their temper or feeling anxious.
The people who keep bearing against their wishes find themselves frustrated at the end of the day. They develop the habit to undergo pain and never come up with their feelings. Also, their energy depletes with time and they turn negative about people and situations. They even attract negative personalities who tend to manipulate them or take advantage of them. Also, their inability to speak at the right time and in the right manner, leads to a blast of anger and a sudden exhaustion of thoughts in an unorganized and least understandable manner, making them sound too naive, immature or irritable.
The best way is to be alert and mindful in each and every moment and develop the habit to stick to one’s values and speak out everytime necessary. It’s good to understand others, but nothing should be left inside to be a regret or a frustration for later life.