I generally get to meet and interact with hundreds of people everyday. They are all the same and yet different. They see life differently, they tackle situations differently and they have a different perception of themselves. I interact with people begging and selling eatables at the traffic lights, students attending my training sessions, professionals from different industries and people  from almost all walks of life, everyday.

I wanted to understand that why are some people more desirable than others? Why are some given more importance and what traits make them better than other human beings? What brings success to a few and others remain mediocre?

Firstly, people who are satisfied and carry a feeling of fulfillment, have a different level of confidence in their way of living. They are neither desperate nor unaware of what they want. They count their blessings and find themselves complete in all facets. Such people are seen as wonderful performers in public presentations, job interviews and in general conversation with their friends. Employers prefer them over a hundred other candidates and life offers them more than others. Such kids are parents’ favourite and are given preference over their siblings. Such a spouse is called stable and mature in his/her ways. These people fail  to see the untoward or undesirable situations. They hardly name situations as “failure,” “bad luck” or a “misfortune.” They highlight their small achievements and keep their victories as their focal point. They jump from one victory to another.

Secondly, people, who have achieved a few of their goals and know they can acquire anything they desire, emit  a different vibration. They carry a smile and take every situation with a sense of calm. They are sure of the way they would take their journey further and their paths are well decided. They are considered reliable, dependable and people call them a source of ultimate support.

On the other hand, the ones who have highlighted their failures in their minds, show signs of degraded self esteem, a behaviour of worry, short temperedness and chronic anxiety. They are too conscious and carry an energy of rejection even before they actually try. Such people face rejections in interviews, feel incomplete even when they have it all, find faults in others’ behaviour and create an energy of repulsion. Such people have been observed to have a series of broken relationships, a habit to brood over their issues and they blame other for their problems.

Thus, being fulfilled and counting everything one has, instead of  what one lacks, makes one confident and humble. It ends anxiety and the success comes looking for such people. It’s advisable to have small, achievable goals and be ecstatic about reaching them over time. Heavy goals or a feeling of lack can make you feel empty, attracting similar situations outside.